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Andrew Michael Murphy
November 22 , 2000 - January 13 , 2021
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- As we honor the legacy of a very special life of Andrew M. Murphy, loving son, loving brother, loving grandson, and the love Andrew shares with all his family of many uncles, aunts , nieces, nephews, neighbors, public service officials and all that has had the honor in Andrews life here on earth. Today we honor the life of Andrew who now is pain free in heaven. As Andrew's brother I’m honored to continue his legacy. Let us not forget Andrew's favorite season is winter. The beautiful stream of snowflakes, when you see these we remember him as they are “Snowflakes from Heaven” Andrew had overcome various obstacles here on earth and was a fighter! He had overcome more obstacles in his life than most could ever handle. It’s the reason to continue Andrew's legacy. It is no secret that this past year has been painful. Our lives have been changed forever, as Andrew's brother in life parents should never have to face the “ultimate tragedy” until it is your turn sitting in the front row of the funeral home feeling numb even when you're expecting a loss it still hits you hard. In closing Andrew and I parents are grieving. In our home we have had a different normal than many others may have including Andrews. Father Andrew who did anything he needed to do to help work from home to assist with Andrew during his illness along with his Mother Teri who would put her health and previous job on hold. Both parents took care of Andrew until his final moments. Jim and Teri had taken care of Andrew all on their own, putting themselves last to take care of any needs of their children. This is unconditionally pure love. In closing although the funeral is done, and all the sympathy cards have been read or the last hotdish for the family back in 01/13/2021 it’s important to reach out to the family ask how things are going, be thoughtful on holidays, include the family in events because at the end of the day think how you would feel. I never thought it would happen to my brother but it did so I ask please continue to spread love as Andrew would want it. Love your brother, Cody xoxo Cody Kokoszka
- I am so sorry to learn of Andrew's passing. My condolences to the entire Murphy family. Paul
- A Poem For Andrew❤️ Too Soon By Mary Yarnall This was a life that had hardly begun No time to find your place in the sun No time to do all you could have done But we loved you enough for a lifetime No time to enjoy the world and its wealth No time to take life down off the shelf No time to sing the song of yourself Though you had enough love for a lifetime Those who live long endure sadness and tears But you’ll never suffer the sorrowing years No betrayal, no anger No hatred, no fear Just love — only love — in your lifetime. Cody
- So very sorry for your loss of Andrew. I thought of you all yesterday evening, after Andrew's service and saw the snow falling and I know that was a sign from him to all those that loved him that he is ok and at peace. Praying for you all during the difficult time and if you need anything, don't hesitate to reach out. Love to you all Katrina Kinzler
- My heart breaks for Andrew’s wonderful family. He was an angel on earth and is now wrapped in the arms of Jesus, where he will be forever. I remember when Andrew was a baby, so beautiful and happy with a big smile, always. I am so very sorry for all who love him and will miss him forever. Prayers and blessings for his loving family. I love you, Judi Judi Fisher
- Jim, Teri and Cody, There are no words to take away the pain, but LOVE can heal us. God is LOVE. The love of God, family and friends. I choose to hope in the promises of Christ. Andrew is not dead, but living wholly in heaven. He is no longer autistic or suffering. He us fully alive enjoying divine life -- the life he was created for! And we will see him again!! That is truth. I place all my grief, all your grief at the foot of the cross. Jesus I trust in you! On this side of heaven, we have to grieve, weep, and support each other. I am so very proud of you--Jim, Teri and Cody for having the fortitude and patience it took to lay down your lives for Andrew. (Mom and Dad are proud of you too!) You constantly and consistently put Andrew first over the last 20 years. You sacrificed so much and you did it all out of LOVE for Andrew! I am sure you would do it all again exactly the same way! YOUR LOVE IS SO STRONG! The decisions were hard, but you will be rewarded. The challenge now is to channel that same LOVE for Andrew into healing for yourselves and your family. If Andrew was here now, he would say thank you for everything! He now knows and understands what you did for him and he would want you to go on, confident that his struggle is over and that he wants you to be happy together awaiting the day when you will be united with him forever. Eternity is a very long time; much longer than we can comprehend. It will be worth the effort needed to heal and go on. He is at peace and he wants your hearts to be at peace too! I cannot wait to see Andrew again! I am here for you and will do all in my power to help you. I hope my LOVE will be as strong for you as yours is for Andrew. God gave us family for that very reason. With all my heart and all my LOVE, PRAYERS AND SUPPORT, ❤️ Your Big Sis, Therri Therri Oberdick
- Sweet ANGLE, or the baby I would call you.. I remember when your dad would pick you up from school and you would run straight to your house happy and I never not seen a little smile...you would walked up the steps to your door and wait for your dad to open it, you would turn around to find him but, when you seen me I would wave and your dad would say “say hi” to me and a few times you did, but I got alittle smile ..If I was in the front yard fussing outside I would wait to see if I would get a smile and most time’s you did D & N(the neighbors from across the street)
- I am so sorry to hear of Andrew’s passing. Sending love and light to you. May God be with you during this difficult time. Please let us know if you need anything. xx Christina, Brandt & Austin Kinzler
- I also would like to add thank you for the Beaumont Health Team and at Royal Oak who took excellent care of my brother. Thank you to each of my brothers nurses and doctors during this critical COVID-19 national pandemic that is truly devastating. The hard work of hospice making Andrew comfortable thank you from the bottom of my heart. Andrew legacy leaves behind the first “Autistic Adult Caution Yellow Sign” for heavy flow traffic on are street a few years ago after years of advocating on my brothers behalf many times it was denied, but I never gave up for Andrew under the ADA (American Disability Act) Elliot Larson the signage was approved by full support of our neighborhood now Southgate has over 9 autism signs creating a living legacy of no extra stress after contacting our state representatives and Senators whom made it possible to ensure going forward families simply can send a request to the Southgate City Hall office on a base by base case (a form to fill out) vs a four year battle of advocating the laws of what under justice for one and only loved brother Andrew. Andrew was non verbal although he faced severe challenges with autism and seizures he by far was much smarter than me, he could work his phone and internet when I would be clueless. My Mom, Jim and I were Andrews main support system , to all of you have taken the time to call , text , or check in thank you for doing the moral thing to do. Andrew was just a baby starting out at 20. To those who haven’t known me and reached out with your kindness thank you. Andrew deserves nothing but love , to all of Andrews family , regardless your personal beliefs, opinions, whom you may or may not agree with , this is to be handled at an appropriate time. This is an child with a grieving mother and father and brother it is time to stand on your two feet, and understand their is no amount of anger that shall take place for the amount of grief/hell my Mom, Jim and I are facing so I am asking rise up , do your part , a message of “ I’m sorry” does not cut the pass their is no hiding behind the phones here , you know what relation you are to Andrew and what to YOU need to do, and to give Andrew nothing but respect and peace as he enters into rest during this difficult time moving forward. Thank you Cody Kokoszka (Andrews Brother) Cody Kokoszka
- I also would like to add thank you for the Beaumont Health Team and at Royal Oak who took excellent care of my brother. Thank you to each of my brothers nurses and doctors during this critical COVID-19 national pandemic that is truly devastating. The hard work of hospice making Andrew comfortable thank you from the bottom of my heart. Andrew legacy leaves behind the first “Autistic Adult Caution Yellow Sign” for heavy flow traffic on are street a few years ago after years of advocating on my brothers behalf many times it was denied, but I never gave up for Andrew under the ADA (American Disability Act) Elliot Larson the signage was approved by full support of our neighborhood now Southgate has over 9 autism signs creating a living legacy of no extra stress after contacting our state representatives and Senators whom made it possible to ensure going forward families simply can send a request to the Southgate City Hall office on a base by base case (a form to fill out) vs a four year battle of advocating the laws of what under justice for one and only loved brother Andrew. Andrew was non verbal although he faced severe challenges with autism and seizures he by far was much smarter than me, he could work his phone and internet when I would be clueless. My Mom, Jim and I were Andrews main support system , to all of you have taken the time to call , text , or check in thank you for doing the moral thing to do. Andrew was just a baby starting out at 20. To those who haven’t known me and reached out with your kindness thank you. Andrew deserves nothing but love , to all of Andrews family , regardless your personal beliefs, opinions, whom you may or may not agree with , this is to be handled at an appropriate time. This is an child with a grieving mother and father and brother it is time to stand on your two feet, and understand their is no amount of anger that shall take place for the amount of grief/hell my Mom, Jim and I are facing so I am asking rise up , do your part , you know what to do, and to give Andrew nothing but respect and peace as he enters into rest during this difficult time moving forward. Thank you Cody Kokoszka (Andrews Brother) Cody Kokoszka
- My sweet boy, You have no idea how much I miss you already. Your touch, your giggles, your hugs, your kisses, your never-ending infectious ability to love me unconditionally without having to speak a word. I am lost without you. The best part of my day was to hurry up, sneak in your bed, snuggle up to you, and say " good morning handsome". And there it was a big smile, from ear to ear. I miss laying there rubbing your head, with your fuzzy bear hair, you loved it! I am honored to be your mama. You have taught me so much in such a short amount of time you were here here with us. You have taught me patience, understanding, acceptance, you have taught me to never judge. You have made me such a better person, and so for all of that, thank you Andrew. I don't know how I will ever go on without you by my side, You were so incredibly brave, so strong, but most of all so very loving. Daddy and I made a promise a very long time ago that we would always be the only one's to take care of you, no matter how hard it would become, we did it!! We did it!! We were NEVER going to give up!! You again, gave us strength that we never knew existed. I am so very sorry that you were so sick near the end. But as we promised, we brought you home from the Hospital and directly into the care of Hospice. For that, I am forever grateful. And I am beyond grateful the night you passed, you were in my arms. I love you and miss you so much. This physically hurts. Until we meet again, my sweet boy.....I love you with every beat of my heart, with every breath I take, and every snowflake I see, you are with me always. Thank you for being you, a true example of the most selfless, loving, kind, sweet, gentle, most amazing son any mom could ever ask for. With all my heart, I Love and miss you terribly Andrew. ❤Love Always, Mama xoxoxo Teri L. Murphy
- Andrew, As parents, we were prepared to teach you everything. We looked forward to you growing up, going to school, playing sports, going to dances, dating, marriage and having children of your own. We know now that you were sent to us for another reason. You were sent to us so we could learn from you. You had your own way for everything, ways we did not understand. You taught us patience and understanding. You taught us how life works and that we needed to learn from you. You gave us the strength to fight, to be resilient, to defend and assertive to protect you. You taught us that you needed us to follow your lead, and we did. We sacrificed everything to bring you comfort and happiness. We are crushed that you left us so soon. We miss you endlessly already. We are lost without you. The sorrow and emptiness will never go away. You will forever be in our hearts. I love you son. Be free and please watch over us until we seen you again. Love Daddy James Murphy
- Dear Andrew, my one and only brother. My heart is broken. A piece of my heart is broken you are my one and only brother. You have taught me so much in your short 20 years with me. You taught me kindness, you have taught me nothing but but love, you have taught me to be yourself, and how brave you are. You are a true super hero who had fault like hell! Many people would underestimated your abilities and you proved them wrong , you have overcame more obstacles in your life than any human being shall even have to think about. You are loved by us, just like you should be and each and every person that knows you should step up to the plate. You are so strong. I miss you everyday, every minute , every hour. To put my arms around you and give you a hug and kiss, to hold you when you were just my baby brother to giving you a hug and holding your hand after you had passed with us at home you will always be on my mind. My love for you is to the moon and back, I love you Andrew your always be my one and only brother forever and ever. Cody Xoxo A Poem For Andrew~ I hold onto our memories The ones that are so dear To try to keep you always close Now you are not here You were called, it was your time But it is so true You have left a legacy There was no one like you You were very special And I want to say I feel lost in many ways You are not here today But I will never forget you And I know I have been blessed To have you for my Brother Because you were the best… Cody Kokoszka
- My thoughts, prayers and my heart goes out to Cody and his family. Laura Dunaway
- My heart, thoughts and prayers go out to Cody kokoszka and his family. I know how it feels to lose a family member. You miss them everyday you can never forget them. They are in your mind and heart forever . Laura Dunaway
